A Simple Test to Understand the Value of your Softness

 

In this universe, there is delightful softness, a charming pliability and sweet-flowing malleability that allows this cosmic game of interactive transformations to the limit of infinity. We are cast in the image of that pliability. Love courses through the soft tissues of our being. Love is soul's blood. Softness has a mystical innocence and cozy vulnerability that sustains the consciousness unlike a stone. Well, that is what makes us humans. Don't mistake your softness for weakness. It's the seat of your sensitivities and loving kindness.

Softness has its mystical sublimity and grandeur. It's the medium through which love spreads. Rigidities hit a roadblock in the medium. So feel proud of your softness and sensitivities. It only proves your liveliness. Mind you, many a time feminine fragility is simply a camouflage for the inherent strength and vitality. So don’t commit the mistake of discarding it only on its face value.

All those who have lost faith somehow along the bruising path (including many who get into self-reproach for being too soft and thus invite punishment), I invite you all such suffering rabbits to try faking a lion for some time! Well, this is to create a visible contrast between the soft you and the hard you. So bury your softness and turn hard.

It is a bit of iron talk to test whether it stands or not in comparison to the butter soft approach to life. So to start with the tough tasking.

Impose the belief that life is to be won by wearing the battle shields and arms of cold hard logic and point blank reasoning. You become a soldier. Keep your emotions and sensitivities safely cradled deep in your heart. Don’t wear them on your chest, firmly convinced that some arrow will easily pierce you. So always be predatorily alert to the risks to your interests. Kindly handle the extra strain at your own cost. Ha Ha!

A lot many of you might be thinking that life is screwing you up from many angles, and despite best of your efforts, the softer you becomes the cause of your fall. So despite all the humanly possible tries, you find the situation unchanging, the same pliable you letting you down time and again. As the self-assigned practice to get hardened up, you can now fight for a change. Force the change in your vulnerable self, the carrier of this entire unjustified shitty load! Turn stone hard as we said earlier.

Get into the steely mode to turn yourself physically stronger. And forget about the psychological variants of strength. Believe that it is like a person suffering under 100 kg weight. And come whatever may, she cannot unburden herself of this load. What is the option left now? It is just to get physically stronger so that it is possible to carry the load.

I am talking of plain physical strength. Forget about all other versions of power. Simply believe that physical strength is the prelude to all other concepts of strength. So all you guys and girls, who feel that they are undeservedly carrying extra load in life on their softer self, just sweat it out. Grow strong physically. Let us see if you will be able to laugh at the weight on you? Only you can find the answer. Hope the fighting spirit gives you permanent peace.

Much as you carry on with the hardening exercise, never forget to be cautious though. The effort should not be an alert soldier type all the way. You may break. Soft and loving you are essentially at the core. And you are just trying to be what you are not. So take little breaks also. You deserve your airy moments—little-little somersaults, froggy jumps over life's grounded roadblocks, and tiny ballooned flights above the sandy realities on the surface. But still keep it somewhere in the heart that you are terrestrial beings not the airy angels. So guys ensure that you land rightly on your feet after airy jaunts and not crash-land on your ass.

 

One month is a suitable time to test the effects of this changed approach. If living like an iron-masked alert soldier gives you sustained peace, well and good, you may carry on like a hard-fisted maniac. All the best to you for your worldly laurels!

However, if you find something missing, you will automatically realize the significance of the mellow posturing of your softer self. All I can do is to turn your attention to one simple fact in nature: A huge tree breaks in the storm; a blade of grass meanwhile survives to kiss the warm sunrays after the storm is over.