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Hi, this is somebody who has taken the quieter by-lane to be happy. The hustle and bustle of the big, booming main street was too intimidating. Passing through the quieter by-lane I intend to reach a solitary path, laid out just for me, to reach my destiny, to be happy primarily, and enjoy the fruits of being happy. (www.sandeepdahiya.com)

Wednesday, June 22, 2022

Play your Part on the Small Stage of Nature

 

In the pursuit of greater glories and bigger goals, we often fall faceward, hitting our nose in the dust. We have beautiful small eyes. They are not meant to capture the biggest shots reaching eternity. There are little points in nature possessing the summaries of the real meanings of life. Keep yourself open to such great learning provided by the unassuming teachress.

A huge megamall under construction will leave you with a sooty awe, making you feel trivial. The self-emerging pattern of nature through a 5-gram super-worker, on the other hand, will teach you the basics of building, in a charming, aesthetic way. It will not trivialize you. You will retain your smile as you muse over the tiny miracle. Like I do.

I have seen mammoth buildings under construction and small nests in making. Believe me basics are just the same. It’s merely piecing together the material in a diligent way.

I see a new home in making, the fabulous work of a small pair of greenish white-eyed wonder. A tiny hammock fixed to jasmine leaves. It’s a perfect mix of natural and human merchandise involving thin strands of fiber, cobwebs, threads, grass and rootlets. The olive-backed sunbirds succeeded in a coup, in that I could not spot the nest, but not this one. I have spotted ha ha.

Don't you think there is a supreme consciousness, sort of cosmic intelligence, which pervades across species and phenomena all over the universe, driving all of us knowing unknowing to the actualization of little, little milestones in the river that life is?

The owners are unbelievably agile and dart off at bullet speed, cocking snook at my amateur efforts to have them as models for my funny photography. So I give in. Also their tweets from a neighboring tree have started to sound abusive. Feeling a Gatecrasher, I just take my nose out of their affair. Anyway, best of luck you little oriental white eyes!

The story then moves on to end on a tragic note. These are mere happenings in the lap of Mother Nature. It’s we who define them as agonies or ecstasies as per our calculations. Nature has counter points, otherwise the game of creation will fall off its track.

Oriental white eye is just 10 cm long, square-tailed, greenish bird with a significant white ring around the eyes. The nest has been firmly glued like a tiny hammock cup, joining three broad leaves, making a cozy home of fibers. The lady is seen sitting most of the time. Its white ringed eye visible under the leaf canopy. All seems well. It appears too small a world to be noticed by predators. With their slender pointed bills, they flit across the branches to enjoy flower nectar, guavas and tiny ants. In league with the song of life, they make feeble jingling notes to add to the ultimate melody.

Then arrives the counter point, Greater Coucal, the clumsy, black bird with chestnut wings. I hear its deeply resonant coop coop coop coop in the morning. It is loitering around in the cluster of trees where our Bulbuls have their little one to be trained for bigger flights. I don't think it is catchable anymore.

Coucal steals eggs and feeds on lizards and tiny mice. It is very clumsily sticky on the ground. I chase it away. It flows away very unwillingly. God knows how it has spotted the tiny cup of the white eye. So there it is again in the afternoon. I hear the flapping of feathers and see it sneaking out like an expert thief. The tiny parents just give very feeble, jingling notes that hardly escape out of the shrub. I check the tiny cup nest. It is empty and feel very sad for the little creatures.

Greed is bad. After a couple of hours, I hear the panicked noted of the little birds and go out to see the greedy thief stuck to the leaves poking into the cup for more. It is so engrossed that it doesn’t mind me approaching at all. Well it's truly lousy. A thief has to be watchful. The height is just at a suitable range with my raised hand. Well, I have all the chance to kill it in one big swipe. But then you can not engage with a bird at your own human level. That isn't fair, even if it has committed a crime. To Mother Nature it's no crime. And I don’t want to be a murderer. So I use only that much force that would make it really painful for a bird of that size, without permanent disability. So here I go. It falls down, and takes to airs with a seriously painful shriek.

Well, the only take away of my strike can be that it may not dare to come again to poke into the nest of spotted munia just above on the tree. I hope so. I expect him to learn a lesson or two. I know I shouldn't interfere in the scheme of nature. But then these birds are my friends on the grounds that my courtyard has the trees that they own on account of their nests, so I use my rights to interfere.

All in all, it sets a small stage where I can engage in a harmless way. Given our over-greedy, predatory approach to life, there is hardly anything in our endeavors that doesn’t border on excesses against nature. So I really cherish such mild engagements. It defangs me of my villainy as a modern human being. Definitely it feels good.

Our hearts need nourishment. We have all been pumping iron in the mind. But then our sensitivities get starved. We miss being humane. Seriously we do. So guys play your part in such tiny plays of nature. Beyond betrayals, hate and jealousies, it will bring a smile on your lips. And long before you realize, you become a considerate and kind human being. A great reward in its own way, I tell you. 

Sunday, June 19, 2022

Have your Plate Full from Nature’s Buffet

 

This sun shines as much for you as it does for a little bird, say for a mother spotted munia. Heighten your sensitivities. It will turn you more humane and considerate. It serves as almost milk and almonds for your loving self I tell you. There are certain love-drenched moments in Mother Nature when beauty and love is showering. Be there to get a cooling, healing shower.

These spectacles are so overpowering that even after a period of months they stand out with their lovely milestone. Such memories are a bulwark against negative emotions. They shift them off the floor and take firm roots. You simply smile in return, like I do over a lilting memory. And believe me there is a smile on my face as I again dip into those moments and tell the tiny memoir. I feel so alive.

It’s a perfectly rain-lashed day. With excess of rains the day appears even gloomy dark. But then the skies relent for some time in early afternoon. The lady takes a break from providing warmth to give shape to the formless liquid in her eggs. The evening is laden with drizzling moments. After the day-long watery bonanza, the sun casts a momentary glance to find out how much more water may be needed. A pale yellow streak spreads under the black curtain of clouds.

The spotted munia comes out and sits pensively by her hut. It’s a smart, suave chocolate brown bird of the size of common house sparrow. It carries its white and black speckled underparts with a good fashion statement. She utters feeble chirrups. The nest is a disorderly globular structure, possibly to confuse predators, with a semi-closed entrance hole. There are eggs under incubation. Probably she has come out to enjoy the rain-soaked evening with a silver lining.

There are hatchlings! I can hear some distinctive frail notes. The nest is a masterwork in deception. The outer rag-tag globular structure, having the main entry hole, gives the look of an abandoned nest. The real seat of residence lies in a safer cocoon inside. I remember a curious squirrel enquiringly snoozing by the hole. It sneaked in and came out on the other side of the loose top ends. The little ones didn't so much as even come out of their sleep. Or they prefer to remain mum in Mom's absence. Hail cosmic intelligence. The flawless fabric!

There are further birdie colors behind grey dark skies and tiny wire-tailed swallows flanked by their parents arrive on the scene. A wire-tailed swallow couple arrives with their little ones. The babies are out to be handsome men and women. They fly swiftly but are yet to get the wires in their tales like their parents. Ma and Pa are swiftly darting in the overcast skies to catch midges and flies to feed the little ones. Parental duties going on swiftly, as usual, just like in every nook corner of earth.

The birds are so colorful: glossy steel blue above, chestnut patch on head and glistening white underparts. Well, it's always a better world with more and more birds around. A shikra, crow-sized hawk, is seen around. The parents dart around and send warning whistles. Within a minute, dozens of swallows arrive on the scene and rush about in their majestically free ways to confuse the transgressor. They are always there for each other, without fail, despite fight, quarrels and brawls for midges. They never betray their instincts of love and care for each other. The stately Papa (like typical males, he is braggish with a longer wire tail) gives a picture of poise and confidence. The mother (as they are always, busy) hovering above. The happy family!

Now to take it a bit closer to the crawly human world, sad pink-bum, the big intimidating monkey, is also around. I politely refuse him guava from my small tree because last time he nearly dislodged it. This chap is too hefty, as broad-backed as a man. So he smirks from the neem tree and doesn't give a good pause to click him. It sadly looks at the raw guavas. Last time he picked them raw and then threw these like grenades. The way he is looking at them, I'm sure he will return. In mild irritation, it takes a swipe at a crow that comes to perch too near for its dignity. By the way his bum is super-pink! This color is the pick of the day.

Well, don’t you think such memories suffuse your heart with a mystical happiness? It’s a sweet disinfectant to chase away the bugs of nagging memories that fuel regrets, anger and jealousies. So have your plate full from the delicacies ever ready in nature around you. They exist forever, just that we need to have eyes to define them for suitable meanings about life and living.

Friday, June 17, 2022

Accept Change and Impermanence and Turn Sweeter

 

One of the biggest factors of bitterness in life, and hence an anti-dote to a sweet and loving self, is our inability to come to terms with the changes in our life. Positive changes we ignore and negatives are picked up by our haunted mind to get us dispirited and depressed. There is nothing permanent except the change. Let us come to terms with the shifting stage of life.

Randy Pausch: “We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the game.”

As you realize that change as such cannot be avoided, we can at least learn to refit our sails to pursue our journey. Acceptance of change makes adjustments and alteration in attitude easier.

As you accept and adjust to the changes in your life, you can go a bit softer on your expectations from your own self. Don’t worry, it’s not going to turn you lazier. You will just become more realistic.

Your best isn't same under different circumstances. Your best in old age isn't the same as in youth. Best is simply best. Bitterness arises where you compare your best in old age to your best in youth. Understanding impermanence in real sense will help you in managing the agents of bitterness that breed regrets and self-criticism. As your situational boat gets tossed by changing circumstances, you can be your best help by avoiding negative self-judgment.

Keen insights into the law of impermanence provide a sweet wisdom about life. You simply cut on your suffering by avoiding guilt and heart-burn, as you have a more realistic assessment of your placement in life. You cut down on the feeling of loss as you realize that the so called losses were just meant to be simple effects of the unavoidable changes of life.

Nature is abounding with the proofs of the rule of impermanence. At each step you find tell tale signs of change. I use a very simple technique drawn from nature to strike home the point.

 To nail home the biggest truth about life—change and impermanenceI gather freest flowers of night blooming jasmine on a dewy winter morning. They are full of life and fragrance. I keep them on my desk from 7 AM in morning to 7 AM the next day. Twenty-four hours of change strike home the ultimate truth. Things exist just as interludes in the cycle of transformation: from armful to fistful...from coquettish smile to crumbling grimace...from the skies to the ground...from running to rest. It’s a very simple Zen technique to stamp home the biggest truth that we tend to forget while we boast, fret, fume and stomp on the stage of life.

As the grains of time's sand slip through your fist, be happy, enjoy, smile, love and care for those around, so that when you look back from your mound of dust you find it meaningful.

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This is the journey of a common man during one of the most difficult phases in the modern history. Corona stole many a smile from us. There were individual pains swaddled in collective miseries. But then we have to walk through the fog to reach the sunny slopes. And we did. Many of us fell on the way. It's in remembrance of those who co...


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...and finally the sun has to smile to drive away the particles of darkness clinging to the twilight mist, for life, for love, for happiness... These are the stories of hope, resilience, courage and conviction.

(Sufi) Sandeep Dahiya is the author of about a dozen books. His works carry murmurs of gentility and tender aroma of small things in life. He is charming, poetic and generous in his views about life and living. Sandeep elegantly portrays little things that have a big role in making our lives joyful. His writings are an eclectic blend of witty charm, experienced softness and scented receptivity. Not to forget that he writes with intelligence and insight. His characters are wry, insightful, whimsical, lively as well as funny.