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Hi, this is somebody who has taken the quieter by-lane to be happy. The hustle and bustle of the big, booming main street was too intimidating. Passing through the quieter by-lane I intend to reach a solitary path, laid out just for me, to reach my destiny, to be happy primarily, and enjoy the fruits of being happy. (www.sandeepdahiya.com)

Sunday, June 19, 2022

Have your Plate Full from Nature’s Buffet

 

This sun shines as much for you as it does for a little bird, say for a mother spotted munia. Heighten your sensitivities. It will turn you more humane and considerate. It serves as almost milk and almonds for your loving self I tell you. There are certain love-drenched moments in Mother Nature when beauty and love is showering. Be there to get a cooling, healing shower.

These spectacles are so overpowering that even after a period of months they stand out with their lovely milestone. Such memories are a bulwark against negative emotions. They shift them off the floor and take firm roots. You simply smile in return, like I do over a lilting memory. And believe me there is a smile on my face as I again dip into those moments and tell the tiny memoir. I feel so alive.

It’s a perfectly rain-lashed day. With excess of rains the day appears even gloomy dark. But then the skies relent for some time in early afternoon. The lady takes a break from providing warmth to give shape to the formless liquid in her eggs. The evening is laden with drizzling moments. After the day-long watery bonanza, the sun casts a momentary glance to find out how much more water may be needed. A pale yellow streak spreads under the black curtain of clouds.

The spotted munia comes out and sits pensively by her hut. It’s a smart, suave chocolate brown bird of the size of common house sparrow. It carries its white and black speckled underparts with a good fashion statement. She utters feeble chirrups. The nest is a disorderly globular structure, possibly to confuse predators, with a semi-closed entrance hole. There are eggs under incubation. Probably she has come out to enjoy the rain-soaked evening with a silver lining.

There are hatchlings! I can hear some distinctive frail notes. The nest is a masterwork in deception. The outer rag-tag globular structure, having the main entry hole, gives the look of an abandoned nest. The real seat of residence lies in a safer cocoon inside. I remember a curious squirrel enquiringly snoozing by the hole. It sneaked in and came out on the other side of the loose top ends. The little ones didn't so much as even come out of their sleep. Or they prefer to remain mum in Mom's absence. Hail cosmic intelligence. The flawless fabric!

There are further birdie colors behind grey dark skies and tiny wire-tailed swallows flanked by their parents arrive on the scene. A wire-tailed swallow couple arrives with their little ones. The babies are out to be handsome men and women. They fly swiftly but are yet to get the wires in their tales like their parents. Ma and Pa are swiftly darting in the overcast skies to catch midges and flies to feed the little ones. Parental duties going on swiftly, as usual, just like in every nook corner of earth.

The birds are so colorful: glossy steel blue above, chestnut patch on head and glistening white underparts. Well, it's always a better world with more and more birds around. A shikra, crow-sized hawk, is seen around. The parents dart around and send warning whistles. Within a minute, dozens of swallows arrive on the scene and rush about in their majestically free ways to confuse the transgressor. They are always there for each other, without fail, despite fight, quarrels and brawls for midges. They never betray their instincts of love and care for each other. The stately Papa (like typical males, he is braggish with a longer wire tail) gives a picture of poise and confidence. The mother (as they are always, busy) hovering above. The happy family!

Now to take it a bit closer to the crawly human world, sad pink-bum, the big intimidating monkey, is also around. I politely refuse him guava from my small tree because last time he nearly dislodged it. This chap is too hefty, as broad-backed as a man. So he smirks from the neem tree and doesn't give a good pause to click him. It sadly looks at the raw guavas. Last time he picked them raw and then threw these like grenades. The way he is looking at them, I'm sure he will return. In mild irritation, it takes a swipe at a crow that comes to perch too near for its dignity. By the way his bum is super-pink! This color is the pick of the day.

Well, don’t you think such memories suffuse your heart with a mystical happiness? It’s a sweet disinfectant to chase away the bugs of nagging memories that fuel regrets, anger and jealousies. So have your plate full from the delicacies ever ready in nature around you. They exist forever, just that we need to have eyes to define them for suitable meanings about life and living.

Friday, June 17, 2022

Accept Change and Impermanence and Turn Sweeter

 

One of the biggest factors of bitterness in life, and hence an anti-dote to a sweet and loving self, is our inability to come to terms with the changes in our life. Positive changes we ignore and negatives are picked up by our haunted mind to get us dispirited and depressed. There is nothing permanent except the change. Let us come to terms with the shifting stage of life.

Randy Pausch: “We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the game.”

As you realize that change as such cannot be avoided, we can at least learn to refit our sails to pursue our journey. Acceptance of change makes adjustments and alteration in attitude easier.

As you accept and adjust to the changes in your life, you can go a bit softer on your expectations from your own self. Don’t worry, it’s not going to turn you lazier. You will just become more realistic.

Your best isn't same under different circumstances. Your best in old age isn't the same as in youth. Best is simply best. Bitterness arises where you compare your best in old age to your best in youth. Understanding impermanence in real sense will help you in managing the agents of bitterness that breed regrets and self-criticism. As your situational boat gets tossed by changing circumstances, you can be your best help by avoiding negative self-judgment.

Keen insights into the law of impermanence provide a sweet wisdom about life. You simply cut on your suffering by avoiding guilt and heart-burn, as you have a more realistic assessment of your placement in life. You cut down on the feeling of loss as you realize that the so called losses were just meant to be simple effects of the unavoidable changes of life.

Nature is abounding with the proofs of the rule of impermanence. At each step you find tell tale signs of change. I use a very simple technique drawn from nature to strike home the point.

 To nail home the biggest truth about life—change and impermanenceI gather freest flowers of night blooming jasmine on a dewy winter morning. They are full of life and fragrance. I keep them on my desk from 7 AM in morning to 7 AM the next day. Twenty-four hours of change strike home the ultimate truth. Things exist just as interludes in the cycle of transformation: from armful to fistful...from coquettish smile to crumbling grimace...from the skies to the ground...from running to rest. It’s a very simple Zen technique to stamp home the biggest truth that we tend to forget while we boast, fret, fume and stomp on the stage of life.

As the grains of time's sand slip through your fist, be happy, enjoy, smile, love and care for those around, so that when you look back from your mound of dust you find it meaningful.

The Wicked Googly by Sandeep Dahiya available at Amazon.com

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This is the journey of a common man during one of the most difficult phases in the modern history. Corona stole many a smile from us. There were individual pains swaddled in collective miseries. But then we have to walk through the fog to reach the sunny slopes. And we did. Many of us fell on the way. It's in remembrance of those who co...


The Shadows of Love by Sandeep Dahiya available at Amazon.com

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...and finally the sun has to smile to drive away the particles of darkness clinging to the twilight mist, for life, for love, for happiness... These are the stories of hope, resilience, courage and conviction.

(Sufi) Sandeep Dahiya is the author of about a dozen books. His works carry murmurs of gentility and tender aroma of small things in life. He is charming, poetic and generous in his views about life and living. Sandeep elegantly portrays little things that have a big role in making our lives joyful. His writings are an eclectic blend of witty charm, experienced softness and scented receptivity. Not to forget that he writes with intelligence and insight. His characters are wry, insightful, whimsical, lively as well as funny.



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There is no separate story. Stories weave into each other like a well-spun fabric. Stories are like rivers, ever flowing, existing yet not existing, shifting still static, different and similar at the same time. The pieces. The patchwork. Stories within The Story. Yours and mine. Be the princess of your story. The seed in you carries the potential to be the tallest, luxuriant-most tree. The powerful force of creation propels the potential for maximization. Nature doesn’t want it to be a world of half-smiles, half-growths, half-blossoms and half-potential. There is a tendency for fullness. It pulls the process of evolution for the maximum, for completion, for what we call greatness. O my mind, my seat of potentiality, take my journey further. Be the seat of my strength, not weakness, Be the seat of kindness, not cruelty, Be the source of light, not darkness. You, me and all of us are born for the stories of greatness. Let’s share our stories to see through the journey. Please give me company while I tell a few stories!