All of us carry an aura around us. It comprises an electro-magnetic field born of the flow of life energy through and around our bodies. It exists at the interface of physio-psychological and superior selves. The quality of this aura is a function of our mental, physical and emotional states. Anger, regret, fear, jealousy, desperation, sorrow, rejection and hopelessness create a sort of negative energy and consequently a negative aura. It means we carry bad aura. It pollutes the surrounding environment like a heap of garbage. Now isn’t it our bounden duty to keep the environment clean by remaining positive, happy, smiling, poised, relaxed, sympathetic and compassionate? It's our duty brothers and sisters! It's as good for others health as it is for our own. All the steps to the cleaning of all types of pollutants start from the self. Stay happy. Stay clean. Just by doing this we do a social service.
The posts on this blog deal with common people who try to stand proud in front of their own conscience. The rest of the life's tale naturally follows from this point. It's intended to be a joy-maker, helping the reader to see the beauty underlying everyone and everything. Copyright © Sandeep Dahiya. All Rights Reserved for all posts on this blog. No part of this blog may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means without permission in writing from the author of this blog.
About Me

- Sufi
- Hi, this is somebody who has taken the quieter by-lane to be happy. The hustle and bustle of the big, booming main street was too intimidating. Passing through the quieter by-lane I intend to reach a solitary path, laid out just for me, to reach my destiny, to be happy primarily, and enjoy the fruits of being happy. (www.sandeepdahiya.com)
Sunday, April 9, 2017
Thursday, April 6, 2017
Lip-kissed lies and soul-kissed love
It is
springtime in ancient India. Snow is melting in the mountains. Flowers smile
and let out perfume that is picked up by the cool air to be scattered in love
loops. This town in the Gangetic plains is awash with fresh hopes. Butterflies
dart around in the air full of love and procreation.
The
air is blowing with a seductive message. A young, handsome monk is moving
through the streets. His steps are slow and face has a faint smile. He has a
begging bowl in his right hand. A cloth bag hangs from his left shoulder. The
spring air is redolent with both giving and receiving. This saffron clad man
but has just the goal of having one time meal.
He
is passing in front of a luxurious small palace. It’s decorated for love and
enjoyment. It seems like a place where one can just surrender the self to
quench all thirst. He is but moving all unconcerned and detached from all
worldly splendor. A pair of beautiful eyes looks at him from the ornate
balcony. Her heart stops for a moment. If she is the ever restless river, he
appears like the calmest sea having the immensity to swallow her thirst, her
restlessness, her quest for destination, her final fulfillment. She realizes
her hunger. It is plain desire. He is so handsome and so aloof from all worldly
charms.
She
has the world at her feet. The most beautiful woman of the state, she has the
title of nagar vadhu. Her life stands
for love, opulence and luxury. Wealthiest traders, strongest noblemen, most
creative artists all kiss her feet to appease her and take a sip from the
fountain of her beauty. Any man feels lucky if she holds her look on his face
for more than a second.
The
young monk with the begging bowl moves with ease. At ease with his being. All
restfulness. It’s a calm, unperturbed lake. It doesn’t happen that she is still
holding her look on a man’s face and the man’s eyes move on. Her charms are so
spell-binding. She has been proud of this power. The feminine avatar of power.
With a faint smile he just moves on. There is not the slightest change in his
demeanor.
The
hard shell of her ego cracks. It disturbs her. She even gets angry. She can see
his back. He is now moving slowly in the street. The anger in her again turns
to desire. Till now men desired her. This loveful spring morning has changed
the tables. She desires this calm sea. She needs some rest. The spiteful
torrents of her youth want to submerge into his silent depths. It just attracts
her senses like anything. She feels helpless.
She
sends her maid to call the monk. Her heart is pounding against her breast. She
is gasping for breath and at loss of words. Her hold over masculinity is giving
in. She feels like a helpless, fragile woman. And finds it such a moving
feeling.
Her
reverie is broken. The monk is standing in front of her door again.
“What
do you want?” she asks, shyly, dropping her gaze around his feet.
Where
is that domination of men, her servant thinks.
“Beautiful
lady, I just want one time’s meal,” the monk tells her.
She
laughs in a mocking way. “You should ask as per the status of the person. Even
a farmer can give you that much,” she is feeling offended that he isn’t taking
notice of her charms as if she is just like any other woman around.
The
monk smiles. “Well young lady, this is all I need. It doesn’t change with
people.”
“You
can have me, my palace and my luxury if you stay with me,” she sounds
desperate.
He
is as cool as before, as if nothing has happened. “This world is my house. I
take the minimum as charity to survive, just one time’s meal. I am looking out
for the path to give more. I am searching for the path to a destination when
each particle of my being will be ready to give selflessly.”
“I
am also ready to give all I have including myself and my palace and wealth.
Isn’t it the same?” she asks.
“But
you want to give only with the ambition of getting something back for your ego.
You want to receive a monk abandoning his path for your beauty. There cannot be
a bigger ambition, a bigger tool to pacify the ego.”
The
monk is unperturbed. She is shaking with rage over the denial.
“At
least stay with me for a night!” she is helpless and appears almost pleading.
“Do
you really need my help? I can see wealthiest to strongest are ready to help
your needs,” he gives her a kind look.
“Please
please…” she is imploring. “I really really need you. If you spend the night
with me, I will forsake all men. Believe me!”
The
young man gives a pitying smile. “I will come and stay when you really need
me.”
She
is tearful over the denial. The monk takes onto his path. She watches him till
the far end of the street.
Life
then moves on. Like it was before. She gets more wealth, more men falling at
her feet. And the young monk moving slowly on his path of selfless realization.
It
has been two decades since that spring morning in front of her palace. The same
monk is walking towards the city, the same city. Years of penance has taken him
miles down his path of selfless seeking. He is graying but looks wiser, calmer
and even stronger. He can see the lights of the city. It’s just nearby.
He
hears pitiable moans by the road. He stops and moves to the ditch by the path.
A woman is crying in pain and agony. He sits by the bundle of misery. She is in
terrible agony. Eaten by leprosy her open sores are oozing with stanching
fluid. It’s as bad as it can be. So much of pain. He isn’t repulsed by the stench.
He gets tears of sympathy. The calm surface of his being is jolted by emotions.
He
lifts her in his hands and carries her to a nearby inn. They refuse to let him
in with the foul-smelling patient. He decides to set up a hut outside the city
to keep her. The rest of the night he spends under a tree. She lying by his
side, moaning less now. Human touch is a remedy in itself.
The
spring sun rises in all freshness. He has been sleeping for the last couple of
hours. The woman is also asleep. He opens his eyes and looks at her face. The
evil-work of the disease has failed to completely destroy the vestiges of her
former self. He recognizes her. From there to here. What a chasm. What a trail
of misery. More tears drip down his eyes. He meets the destination of his
selfless giving. She was lying there in the dark night to test the validity of
his selfless love. And he has passed.
She
opens her eyes and is surprised to find somebody crying for her.
“You
said you needed me and I said I will come when you will really need me. See I
have come. And you are the destination of my penance. Of selfless giving. Of
loving from the core of being. I was not sure of myself till I found you. Now I
realize it has been worth it. All this search.”
So
the monk took care of her. Helped her in easing all her miseries. Stayed with
her when no other man didn’t even come near her.
She
needed him now. And he was there at a stage in his monkhood when he was all
there to give. Just give. Without taking or expecting anything in return.
Ice cubes on desert sand
Summers.
North India has started to burn. Heat has broken the record of past many
decades. Temperatures above 40 in the last week of March. In the desert state
of Rajasthan things must be even worse. Sand as the birth soil isn’t too
attractive. It must be having its nostalgia, but on a day to day basis it appears
a curse. Ask the ones who are born there. So many people come out of Rajasthan to
avoid the burning cauldron during the summers.
Two
lanky boys are moving across the streets of this Haryanvi village. Haryana is a
semi-arid state. But for somebody belonging to the desert state, semi means
almost full: full with life; full with bread; full with water; full with green
trees.
They
are tall and thin. They have migrated from the desert state. Necessity has
pulled them out of the sand like water flows from higher level to the lower
one. They have to beg. But begging has its own share of pitfalls including
reprimands and harsh words.
“Why don’t you study? Why don’t you work?”
So
they have put the saffron sail cloth on their poor boat. To sail safely.
Holding onto the winds of faith. Their clothes are soiled. But the saffron sashes
around their necks indeed cover a lot of holes in their personas. They expect
to be taken as wandering ascetics. They have even mastered the artful words of
bringing blessings to the house they stand in front of.
The
woman chides them the moment they knock against the rusty iron gate. They but
decide not to be deterred by the initial rebuke. Stealthily they steal glances
at the two small cars parked in the front yard. These are old cars. But to them
a car is a car. Hummer or Maruti 800 doesn’t make any difference.
So
they continue with their blessing words of good fate, long life, endless
prosperity, and more. It’s morning and yesterday it hailed and rained a bit to
take temperatures a bit down. To them it seems like a land of perpetual rain
and prosperity, although it rains marginally more than from their homeland.
They have thorny trees there; here there are some semi-arid varieties like neem
etc. And that changes the world for the best. It’s a shift from worst to best.
They
see the woman cannot cross certain limits to turn outright abusive and
threatening. This is the chink. They have to prod their way in.
“You
have hard words but heart of gold. You can never think ill of others even if
you sound rude,” the elder one nails it.
“What
do you want? No money I tell you! I can only give you some flour,” her voice
mellows down.
They
let their foot further in. It’s an opening.
“There
is no better doing than feeding the hungry. A direct holy deed. God sees it
instantly,” they take their chance.
She
seems to be awaiting God’s attention on some front, so agrees. They barge in.
It’s a spacious house with peeling plaster and mundane furnishing like you see
anywhere in a village in Haryana. To them it’s an abode of prosperity. They sit
down on the unplastered brick-laid floor in the courtyard.
It’s
too early for the family to have their lunch, brunch or whatever. So she makes chapattis
for them. The vegetable curry is already done. They can see the chapattis are
coming straight from the tava, not
the stale leftovers from the previous night that people usually give them and thrown
to the stray dogs. Every times she comes to put another chapatti they are ready
with more words of blessings from the God.
The younger
one asks for ice. They must be having refrigerator he has guessed right. It is
available in every household here. Ice is luxury to him. He comes from burning
sands. Pitchers burn like hot oven there. They drape sack clothes around these and
pour drops of precious water to prevent it from boiling. He has already many
ice cubes in his water utensil. He opens the lid and checks out to see how far
these have melted. He is concerned. It’s melting. He wants replenishment.
“Please
give me ice,” he is literally pleading.
She
laughs at him. “It’s not that hot this morning. There is cool breeze,” she
says.
But
he looks at her with eyes that are crying for ice. She has to get it.
As
she pours the cubes from the tray into his utensil, she can see the twinkle in
his eyes.
Ice
that is just ice to her, is precious to him. He has seen fire in life. Fire
that seeps in everyday life. In desert. Ice has a bigger meaning to him than
anyone else place better than him.
She
notices it now. His clothes are also wet. Not dripping exactly, but he must
have been completely drenched thirty forty minutes back.
“What
happened? Did you fall in water?” she asks.
The
elder one is laughing. “Water turns him crazy. Hardly any water back home. We
take bath almost once a week. When he saw the pond outside the village he
straightaway jumped into it,” he is laughing.
Water
that is just water to her, is luxury to this boy. She tries to fathom the
reason for his ecstasy over ice cubicles and pond waters where buffalos waddle,
but fails to understand. Little does she realize that people run out to count
drops of rain on the sand at his native place. So water is luxury to him.
Like
most of us fail to understand that the things that seem dustbin cheap to us
might be luxury to so many others. That a broken doll on the garbage heap, a
shiny wrapper, a single wheeled broken toy are still items of luxury to many
others. If we do, then we won’t begrudge about the problems in our life.
Monday, April 3, 2017
The art of emptying
Well
before you take steps to fulfill your dreams, learn the art of emptying, of
letting go, of letting out unwanted mossy dregs in the container of your destiny.
Emptying isn’t defeatist. It’s not surrender. It’s a calculated step towards
victory, towards fulfillment. It’s the preparation for gain, the beginning of
filling up. Instead of running after the mirage of fulfillment, focus on
emptying. Fulfillment is just a step away. Fullness starts at the moment of
complete emptying. Wash, scrub, rinse and drain out the muck from the pot of
your destiny. Wash away hate, anger, jealousy, ignorance, desires, phobias,
complexities and overblown ambition. Drain these out. Let it be a perfectly
clean and swanky pot of emptiness. The universe is expanding. It wants clean chambers
to pour its energy into. It will sneak into the clean house in the form of your
dreams and aspirations. The swabs clinging to the bottom are the repellents to fulfillment.
Clean these. Work on emptying. Work on emptiness and you are in fact moving towards
fullness. In a perfectly clean container there is no limitation on fulfillment,
no hurdles to materialization of dreams, no restrictions on infinite cosmic
harmony pouring its vastness into the container. A scribbled canvas has
limitations of painting, a clean one has infinite possibilities of shapes and
pictures. Scrub the slate clean before you start the journey. Even if it means
a lifetime of emptying, it still will not be a loss. Even a second of fulfillment
will be worth it. It will still be better than pouring the nectar of your efforts
in an unclean pot, and just adding onto the stinking broth that never gives
happiness and satisfaction. A clean empty house is a magnet. It pulls positive forces by itself. It's natural like gravitational force. It invites fullness. Complete emptiness invites fullness. Put your house in order. Set up your invitation to fullness on the door. Forget about the rest. Very soon you will hear the knock of fortune on your door. Like water flows to pits in earth, good luck naturally flows to clean, emptied, tidied containers. Come on, let your share flow in!
The hypocrisy of portraying half-Muslims
Muslim
women cannot wear burqa and men
cannot support the typical beard that gives an Islamic man pride. Marriages
cannot be held as per Islamic rules. Nikah
is not allowed. Marriages are to be secular in nature. Polygamy is not allowed.
No madrasa education in mosques. It
has to be secular education. You are not allowed Ramzan fast. It’s Xinjiang
province in China, the home of Uyghur Muslims.
Well
these are the basic roots a common Muslim identifies himself with his religion.
Cut these and what is left? Does it mean the Uighur Muslims of Xinjiang in
China are half Muslims?
Pakistan,
the self-appointed official voice of Islamic conscience, is comfortable with
these measures. China is an ally. And Muslims there, despite all repressive
regulations, are full Muslims. And China is the best prospect for Pakistan’s growth.
One simple message: economic and geostrategic measures are far weightier than
talks of religious rights. The latter, even if these are raked up, are just
simple tools to score strategic battles having nothing to do with religion.
Religion is just a tool of bigger battles and the instrument of spilling
innocent blood.
Come
to India. Triple talaq, an
exploitative practice of female repression and which has been banned in many
front-running Islamic states including Pakistan, still pervades in India.
Mullas wear this right on their sleeve, brandishing it as an identity.
Ramjanambhooomi, a place as holy to Hindus as Kaba and Mecca to Muslims, held
in abeyance to pay service to the nation’s principled secular constitutionality.
There is not even a single law in India that stops Muslims from following any
of the ritual in theological rulebook. But to Pakistan still India is a Satan
repressing minorities forcing its biggest minority into half-Muslimhood. And
Pakistan gets diarrhea over this. China gives it the pill to cure it.
Conclusion.
Geostrategic animosities have bigger causes than merely religion in fuelling the
fire. Religion is just one of the many dry woods that are hurled into the fire
of hate-mongering.
Pakistan
accuses India of repression in Kashmir. Every single Kasmiri Muslim can go to
the end of earth in following his religious rituals. Indian state absolutely
doesn’t exist in this domain. They even allow triple talaq, at the cost of thousands of lives destroyed and future of
Muslim women put in dark, to keep the principles of secularism afloat. Indian
security forces have absolutely no concern about the beard, Ramzan fasts,
pilgrimages, polygamy, triple talaq, madras education, mosques and each and
everything identified with Islam.
Still
China with Xinjiang regulations is a friend, a benefactor of the champion of
Islam. And India with its Himalaya high heaps of Islamic rules, customs and
regulations with Maulvivs and Mullas sitting over them with their secular shield
against any transgression, is a repressor.
It
has nothing to do with religion and repression. It’s all about power and land.
Religion is always a dry fodder, liable to catch fire. Throw the missiles of
hate into it. It will burn. And it burns in Kashmir. At the cost of innocent
lives
Is
it a holy war there? No, it’s a dirty war of ambition and territorial aggression.
It’s a simple power game. To substantiate their lip-service to the cause of
Islam in Kashmir, Pakistan must openly criticize Xinjiang regulations against
Muslims. Otherwise it exposes its hypocrisy in Kashmir. And with the hypocrisy
exposed, it basically becomes a law and order problem in Kashmir.
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